Grief is Love
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Let’s change the story around grief please.
As I am still intertwined with Chrissy + John Legend’s loss, I find myself reading twitter comments and swelling up with rage.
Rage for how our society is reacting to her sharing the death of her baby son openly.
I am a strong advocate in saying and believing that we are allowed to feel it all and all our feelings are valid so I will continue to say that I feel upset and mad that people think it’s okay to be negative around someone’s else grief.
And, this is what I am taking from it …
Our society has a lot of pain and trauma
Our society is unable to sit in the uncomfortable moments
Our society is unable to just witness someone’s pain
Our society is ill equipped to deal with grief
Our society sees someone’s pain as a mirror to their own and they don’t like it
Our society feels comfortable to share rudeness and not feel any responsibility
Our society us unable to see that grief is really love
Grief is really love
Grief is really love
Our society has the ability to learn from this
Our society has the capacity to change
Our society has room to educate
The motherhood journey is complex and women are a force of strength
So in love I will witness what our society is
In love I will hope for better
In love I share my feelings
And in the name of the babies I have lost
I will continue this discussion until
Our society normalizes grief because
GRIEF IS LOVE
jenn xo
[October is Pregnancy + Infant Loss Awareness Month ]
photo is of my daughter Loey who died at 39 weeks + 5 days